It's Not A Vibe
It's not about having beef, but it's just about not dealing with people that don't add anything to your life... but take up precious space and real estate while not being a registered charity so there's an expectation of reciprocity (at least something uplifting and positive at the very least). I mean, they don't have to add massive value, but they can't drag you down, be inconsistent, or waste your time at their convenience and at your expense (why should you be doing all the teaching and all they do is leeching).
Having seen what genuine feels like finally, I just don't beg for the basics anymore.