Prioritize Your Sanity Ruthlessly

It's called quality of presence and not quantity so those who really love you are not going to mind seeing you less if it means you're managing your household, your children (if you have children) first, or your oxygen mask for your disability. True connection is mental anyway.

obviously, keep in touch with the people that you love, but it's not about having unrealistic expectations either. You don't have to go to every event, you don't have to go to every single thing, they should respect and appreciate what you're able to do. Merely keeping in touch should be enough when your connection is emotional and spiritual because that's not based on how often you see the person. I do think that people should continue to communicate, but at the same time, some people take unrealistic expectations way too far, and they mistake it as a measure of effort.

I would be concerned if somebody thinks they come before your household, and they are not part of your immediate household.

I have become an absolute savage and ruthless when it comes to my quiet rest, because I know that if I don't get that, I can't function even at a baseline whether or not I choose to work, but I do choose to work so it's even more important. I don't explain this to adults.