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Your logistical and energy limits are not a reflection of anyone else and need not be taken as a personal attack. 💯 Limits on your mental space, personal space, energy, when you will and will not connect and who you do or do not have time for etc: boundaries protect your *right* to choices which is what personhood is about, you're not an inanimate object that random people can lay claim on. Your right to choices doesn't infringe on others. You're not denying them of anything as much as some will act victimized by your limits, let them. As long...

Boundaries are about protecting your peace and your space (and no safety threat has to be present for them to be guarded as prevention). Boundaries take your power back, so the only people who have a problem with it likely don't want you empowered and that's not your problem. Someone wanting something from you ahead of your own goals and priorities in life and punctuality (no matter what it is that you're doing) is showing you blatant inconsideration. Establishing healthy boundaries for yourself tends to greatly unsettle the unhealthy and codependent individuals in your life. Which is perfect! Focus-related disability 101:...

*I will not be silenced and I'm speaking from my perspective, and I'm not naming any names.* My comfort levels will not be stepped on to "prove" to anyone that my boundaries are not about them, that is not a rightful burden to ask someone to carry when most adults wouldn't have retaliated in the first place to my right to be left alone in my own home.     I'm just waiting for the piece of legislation l saying that I would need to tolerate unwanted connections / overly forced friendships in my home space of all places. There...

Your "potential" is what makes you happy, healthy, and financially secure. I am not interested in living up to anyone else's "dreams" for me, nor am I interested in "scaling up" to a level that hijacks my time off/constantly training new staff. I do what fits my health. Period. The minute my business starts to push on my gym time, streams will be cut.  If someone else wants a bigger scale business, they can go build their own. If undercutting my potential safeguards my sanity, disability, do-not-disturb time off: so be it. My business is also digital-only and by design...

Convenience (or proximity) doesn't dictate my circle, spiritual connection does. It's absolutely a choice... I rather have fewer higher quality people of my own choosing that are for life than through fleeting circumstances as I don't invest in users (temporary people and situations). I think we need to be clear that a friend who has a heart for you will want your well-being even if it means you're less available to them. They would never ask you to sacrifice your oxygen supply (vice versa). They would encourage you to do what is best for you (mutually so). I value depth...