Preserving Independence: Rejecting Unwanted Help Without Apology

Preserving Independence: Rejecting Unwanted Help Without Apology

As a business owner, you're going to get a lot of unwanted advice and unwanted offers for help. You have every right to reject those because rejection is part of life and those incapable of handling their feelings need to manage those issues in therapy, rather than project them on you. 

🔥🔥🔥We follow people online, with mutual love, and we refrain from invading their lives as if people don't have real responsibilities... I know, how terrible that we don't deny ourselves the conditions to our ongoing survival for which we're responsible over what users want from us!🔥🔥🔥 

I am not expected to, nor is any influencer, to "on" or "available" on their private time off... Respecting that people share their business secrets online is how we respect people's OWN time.

Quiet time to mentally recharge is a survival condition that genuine souls who aren’t looking to impose on you or use you will not be bothered by, you have a right to manage as many businesses as you need alongside a disability without issues from people outside your household to whom you owe nothing. Network is about quality, not quantity, recharge time allows you to make proper business decisions and think things through.

1. Undermining Autonomy: Pushing unwanted help can undermine your autonomy by disregarding your ability to make decisions for yourself. It implies that your judgment is not valued or trusted in your own life and business.

2. Ulterior Motives: If someone persists in offering unwanted help despite your refusal, it may indicate they have ulterior motives, such as seeking control, validation, or personal gain (strings attached down the line), rather than genuinely wanting to assist you.

3. Right to Refuse: You have the right to refuse unwanted help without providing an explanation. It's essential to assert your boundaries and maintain control over your own affairs. You do not have to give personal information about your future goals, or business vision to people who are not part of it, and to people who are trying to force something onto you.

4. Privacy and Power: Refusing to explain yourself protects your privacy and preserves your power. You're not obligated to reveal your plans or vision to anyone, especially if doing so compromises your position or goals.

5. Maintaining Independence: Accepting unwanted help can lead to dependence on others and erode your independence. Asserting your right to refuse preserves your autonomy and self-reliance.

6. Trusting Your Instincts: Trusting your instincts about whether assistance is genuinely beneficial allows you to make decisions that align with your own needs and goals, rather than being swayed by others' agendas.

7. Setting Boundaries: Firmly declining unwanted help sets clear boundaries and communicates that you are capable of managing your affairs independently. It reinforces your self-respect and self-reliance.

8. Protecting Vision: Your plans and vision are precious and should be protected. Sharing them selectively with trusted individuals ensures they remain aligned with your goals and aspirations, rather than being influenced by external agendas who will try to twist your priorities and vision to accommodate their intrusive unwanted help and to try to make it look like it's worthwhile and meeting your needs, when you're the only only person who knows what your true needs are.

Unwanted help, although well-intentioned, can often lead to a significant waste of time and energy, diverting attention away from our priorities and goals. Instead of aiding progress, it can become a hindrance, consuming valuable resources without yielding tangible benefits.

Moreover, when assistance is pushed upon us despite our refusal, it undermines our autonomy and erodes our sense of agency.

The time spent deflecting unwanted help could be better utilized focusing on our own priorities, pursuing meaningful endeavours, and nurturing relationships that truly align with our aspirations.

Thus, it's crucial to recognize the true nature of unwanted help – not helpful at all – and assertively decline it to safeguard our time and preserve our autonomy. You get to decide who you want as part of your business and who you don't want to be part of your business. You get to decide who you accept help from and who you don't accept help from.

They are more than welcome to take it personally, but they're going to have to go cry somewhere else.