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In today's fast-paced world, the fear of missing out (FOMO) is a common feeling that haunts many of us. We scroll through social media, witnessing the seemingly perfect lives of others, and wonder if we're missing out on something crucial. But here’s a radical thought: you can’t miss out on anything you don’t have time for.This perspective shift can be liberating. It suggests that if you’re truly occupied with meaningful activities and fulfilling commitments, then you’re not missing out—because you’re fully immersed in the life you’ve chosen. When you align your time with your values and passions, the fear of...

In a world where genuine kindness can seem rare, it’s tempting to accept help whenever it’s offered. A friendly hand in tough times can feel like a lifeline and I can discern this easily. However, not all assistance comes without strings attached. It’s crucial to remain vigilant about who you allow into your life, as some may have ulterior motives. I am talking about situations that set off your alarm bells or where it's an out-of-nowhere agenda-laden bout of bread-crumbing "help" where you feel cornered to accept it: The adage "nothing in life is free" often holds true. Sometimes, the...

Anyone who respects you won't mind if you're unavailable for further connection or keeping in touch. We all have our time constraints and varying socializing needs. Some aspects of life are meant for mental recharge, and it's not your responsibility to cater to others at your own expense. Respectful connections should be consensual and reciprocal, except in the case of registered charity. No one who respects you is going to disrespect your need for quiet time even if it's a higher need than others and they're not going to expect you to spend time that you don't have in your budget...

Happiness is unique to each individual, and what brings joy to one may not resonate with another. To find true happiness, prioritize understanding and respecting your own desires, preferences, and values, and make decisions that resonate with your sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. People who are soothing to your soul will actually enjoy encourage autonomy and respect you for being yourself, they are not going to make you responsible for *their* insecurities around the boundaries of others or the mere existence of boundaries (they won't try to control you). Not all company is good company! If being away from certain people...

Wish them well, but life is too short to try to "prove" your forgiveness through forced reconciliation when they fumbled you.  ***If you're happier after certain people left your life, then I think you made the right decision. Even if it's hard sometimes, your health and happiness and mental health matter. Their opinions don't pay your bills. If I put myself through school and lived on my own since 18, I can handle my life and I really don't need sneak-controllers to try to come back: I genuinely can't fit that in, I have obligations to tend to.*** I think...