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Happiness is unique to each individual, and what brings joy to one may not resonate with another. To find true happiness, prioritize understanding and respecting your own desires, preferences, and values, and make decisions that resonate with your sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. Introverts who enjoy a small circle can actually put more energy into fewer people which is actually why we do this (logistics and inability to keep up with too many people, it's just not smart time-wise). Higher quality and depth also matters to us.  A time-consuming health condition limits my time for too many people and I...

I don't know, but if a therapist and a doctor can do their work online, I'm pretty sure that the mental wheelchair of doing 99.9% of things - including errands - virtually is not a problem in 2024. It's not on the person who has a severe impairment to "compromise" their oxygen.

My actual friends need to give me two weeks notice minimum for hanging out because I have a heavy ADHD and I lose a full day a week to crash out so I feel like anybody outside of my household who I don't know doesn't have a right to misuse my time. I am not at home or at the gym to make friends, and people I know for services/business reasons don't get mixed into my personal life: it was not meant to be.  Even those that I get along well with, I don't have the spare time and I'm grateful for...

Wish them well, but life is too short to try to "prove" your forgiveness through forced reconciliation when they fumbled you.  It is just common sense to avoid people who are connected to past people because otherwise, they still have access to your life and they can try to control you through them. The cost of put-downs and sneaky controlling-ness is life-long and it was not a surprise when I left certain people.  They loved me when I was weak and were kind back then, but when I grew stronger: I was shown no love. If being around certain people...

It's not about having beef, but it's just about not dealing with people that don't add anything to your life... but take up precious space and real estate while not being a registered charity so there's an expectation of reciprocity (at least something uplifting and positive at the very least). I mean, they don't have to add massive value, but they can't drag you down, be inconsistent, or waste your time at their convenience and at your expense (why should you be doing all the teaching and all they do is leeching). Having seen what genuine feels like finally, I...