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In a world where progress seems to be constantly marching forward, it’s disheartening to acknowledge that there are still individuals who view saved weaker people, such as women, for instance, through a lens of degradation and objectification and that some people are still ignorant enough to see that as "friendly" when it is taking a form of unwanted intimacy by force and eroding personal autonomy and free choice. While some may argue that such behaviour is a relic of the past or a rarity in modern society, the truth is that it persists, sometimes lurking in the shadows of business,...

The person who ambushed me in the steam room at my gym tried to tell me that women are less strong than men, that women should not lift weights, and they should depend on men for providing for them so that they can do their creative thing on the side and they can quit their job as well. A random stranger tried to get me to quit my job indirectly. Is it because this person risked their livelihood and mouths to feed for some random side-hustle (with such a small market) of theirs and wanted me to drown when I have...

Anyone who respects you won't mind if you're unavailable for further connection or keeping in touch. We all have our time constraints and varying socializing needs. Some aspects of life are meant for mental recharge, and it's not your responsibility to cater to others at your own expense. Respectful connections should be consensual and reciprocal, except in the case of registered charity. No one who respects you is going to disrespect your need for quiet time even if it's a higher need than others and they're not going to expect you to spend time that you don't have in your budget...

In a world where constant connection and networking seem to be the norm (quantity is focused on over quality and everyone seems "on" 24/7), it's crucial to recognize the power of saying "no" without feeling obligated to explain oneself, especially to strangers. The notion that we owe others an explanation for our decisions, particularly when it comes to declining offers or requests, is deeply ingrained in societal norms among pushy and intrusive people who choose to make the time limits of others mean something about themselves (distorted and weak). However, embracing the ability to say "no" without justification is not...

When you heal, you're able to tolerate the negative opinion of people who have given you no reason to respect or trust them in the first place. You also only entertain mutual reciprocity and no relationships that are based purely on obligation as guilt, especially when it's from outside your household and not a charity. Life is too short for relationships for connections that are not enriching, or fulfilling, empowering, respectful of mutual choice and autonomy. Life is too short to give mental real estate to people who don't matter in your future.  Trust yourself and your intuition about who...