Self-Love & Personal Power (Never Let Them Change You)
Be yourself. How and why?
Being yourself repels the wrong people and places, it directs you to the right places, people, friendships and opportunities. It opens up the doors to new adventures and ways of life.
Being yourself can be difficult sometimes, especially if you have ever been bullied and then gaslighted for bringing the issue of how you were being treated to light. Being told that your problem with their behavior was the problem, rather than the poor treatment itself is gaslighting. Having a solution-oriented response is good; however, being told that you having an issue with bad treatment is the root of the problem itself is not right. The creation and existence of the problem was the poor treatment and their chosen unkind and unethical behaviour at your expense, not your reaction to it or the fact that you brought it to light (in case this happens or has happened to you).
Do not let any manipulative person convince you that you are worth less and that your standards are too high. Do not settle for crumbs.
You are not supposed to sit there and be happy and roll over when someone walks on you or tries to pull the wool over your eyes as to what is really going on. It is fairly normal to have a problem with being belittled. I do not believe that anyone who expects you to put up and shut up has your best interests in mind, at all. If you are not being supported, you are being used or being groomed to be used.
You can have a positive attitude and still have a problem with poor treatment!
Yes, be solution-oriented and positive in any situation; however, do not tolerate nonsense.
It is hard to be yourself if you were ever ganged up on for personal traits or wanting to better yourself. It can be even harder to shake those feelings of self-doubt and comparison. If you were ever bullied for not fitting in or being different, be it due to an accent, weight, age, gender, race, orientation, or any other trait, I am sure you can relate.
Another possible cause of bullying is that they want you to do good, but not better than them. In hindsight, so it makes sense that I was hated on for trying to better myself and my health at some point by a group of people.
I am sharing this because other people who are about positive vibes can probably relate! Misery loves company, by being you, you essentially block out that noise.
The right people will love you and your strength. The people who do not have to bring others down in order to feel good about themselves or in order to gain power have issues, they had insecurities long before you showed up.
I share this because I know many people get bullied in high school, even in University, College, and in some workplaces.
Part of how I want to use my platform is to help people to be themselves and switch their mindset away from revenge and victim-mode and onto 'let go and let karma' as well as 'keep being yourself,' despite what they did and said to you.
Have you ever triggered people for being good at what you do? I have and if you can relate... Because they were mad at the fact that you were more competent than them, rather than working hard to refine their own skills and because you triggered them - they tried to take your Spirit and Crown, so to speak.
A hater's goal is to distract you from your goals and make other people hate you, even if they may succeed at making others dislike you, do not change yourself.
Do not let them take your energy and drive and the very ambition they hated you for.
Do not let them control how you feel about yourself.
In any case, you only get that negative reaction from people who do not want to better themselves and want results without putting in the work.
There is nothing wrong with you and the traits you were bullied for. Never re-arrange yourself just because someone or a petty group of childish people had an issue with it, as long as you are harming no one in the process, live your life.
Be yourself, why? Because their insults were a reflection of how they feel about themselves and their relationship with themselves. After all, their bullying behavior was a reflection of a war, the one they have with themselves. Your life is in your hands from this moment forward. Take as long as you need to heal, but please do not internalize their treatment as a statement of your worthiness. Do not let them take away the purpose for your life and your essence (life force and soul). Perhaps part of your mission can be inspiring others with your experiences?
Genuine people will flock to you. That is all you need.
Strong and confident people are not threatened by others. Instead of making yourself smaller and less intimidating, go towards people who are as strong as you are and deserving of your time.
The sad people who have to gang up to bring you down, did they really win if they pushed out the threat?
The sad people who judge how highly driven people spend their time, do they have more of a life than you if they spend their time watching you? Would such people not have more success in life if they put their energy into building something positive of their own?
The same way that sexual assault and harassment are about power and not attraction, bullying is about taking someone's personal power - not because said person is weak - because your power scares them. You are meant to inspire the right people, not shrink back to make people with low self-esteem more comfortable.
My favourite insult has to be that I am too passionate and too emotional about my craft, it is usually spewed by people with no pride in what they do but my client satisfaction rate is extremely high. I am sharing this to inspire you to be you and never be less hard working, less ethical, less punctual, and less driven due to people who are sobbing because it makes them look bad. The whole "making other people look bad" shows their character and lack of care on its own, should they not be inspired to do/be better rather than knocking you down a few pegs? Petty people will always have karma catch up to them. How emotional of me to say that! I know, so unreasonable. Please continue to attempt to destroy my creativity, while I build my dreams despite your bullying tactics.
Hope you liked the sass, now carry on to being your best version!
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